How To Start : Living Your Purpose

What does it really take to find your purpose?

You can’t force your purpose… What you’re meant to do will flow through you with ease, grace and abundance. And it absolutely will, if only you allow it to.

It will take deep work, inner-looking, and patience with yourself. It will take pushing through your fears and self-imposed boundaries.

And it will take letting yourself go freely into the flowing process of self-discovery.

You can think of it like this:

Your body and mind are channels which conduct energy. When these channels are clear, embodied energy can flow through you with ease- i.e.: whatever you’re desiring to become or create will manifest naturally.

Creating a clear channel through which energy can flow is the first step to honoring your ability to shine, to do what you love, and to live for your unique purpose. 

But…. how??

By doing your practice. Every. Single. Day.

The bottom line: Do your self-work. Practice loving your body, respecting your mind, and taking time to rest. Practice pushing through discomfort- in asana, in meditation, during your work day. Practice loving fully, practice compassion, practice peace and ease of mind.

It may sound silly, but being there for yourself will allow you to truly listen to what your soul desires.

And from there, you will begin to live for your purpose.

Maybe what you’ll discover isn’t what you thought you wanted when you were younger. Maybe it’s not being a CEO, or an astronaut, or the president.

Maybe you’ll find that your unique purpose is being a supportive spouse, a loving and attentive mother, a team player at work, an inspired entrepreneur, or a better steward of the earth.

No matter your end goal, you can only start from where you are right Here and Now. So, breathe, be here, and trust that you’ll discover your purpose as it unfolds.

How one yogi began living for her purpose…

Betsy’s Story:

Betsy is a dear friend and an alumni of my seasonal day retreat series, A Day of Namaste. After attending the last ADON, Betsy was inspired to ditch her limiting self-view and begin living for the purpose of her higher self! Her story is truly inspiring. In her second trimester of pregnancy, she was let-go from a company which was going through bankruptcy. Some fear, and a bit of an identity crisis took over, but then… something magical happened. In going with the flow, in listening to her soul’s desire, she realized that the job she thought would always support her was actually holding her back. And so she created her own lifestyle blog for Mamas and Mama-To-Be’s, called Beautiful With Baby. Read her story below, and check out her beautiful site!!

Betsy and I recently led a Mamaste Meditation Hike at Beaming Cafe Del Mar. We shared our favorite superfood concoctions for Mamas, and talked about what inspires us to live fully aligned with our purpose. I even shared the McCarthy family creed, which begins with our Family’s Purpose.

Here it is: McCarthy Family Purpose

The purpose of our family is to love and support each family member in achieving the fulfillment that comes from doing their best to fulfill their life purpose. maintaining high levels of integrity, and working to improve themselves each day.

And our: McCarthy Family Creed

  1. Today I give thanks for all that I am and all that I have.
  2. Today I treat everyone I see with love and respect.
  3. Today I focus on staying the paphto fulfilling my life purpose.
  4. Today I do my best in everything I do.
  5. Today I do my best to improve my knowledge, skills, health and attitude.
  6. Today I create abundance for myself and all those around me.

 

Photo courtesy of Beautiful with Baby

“I am so fortunate to have been able to attend one of Stacy’s A Day of Namaste retreats. The minute you are welcomed through the doors at A Day of Namaste, you can automatically sense that by the end of the retreat your mindset and daily routine will be shifted for a greater good. Going into my last retreat I was in a state of uncertainty in my career. At 5 months pregnant I was seeking to grow a side business that would allow my creative side to shine and be compensated for. During the retreat I was given the guidance, tools, and shift in mindset that has now led me to be going full throttle with my lifestyle blog, Beautiful With Baby. I am now being sought out by major beauty and apparel brands for partnership. A year ago I never would’ve put myself out there to welcome this kind abundance with the fear of rejection. This change was directly influenced from attending ADON. The education you receive at A Day of Namaste is full circle. Everything from a healthy diet, movement, and mindset are crucial to living your best life and reaching your goals. I also learned how to karate chop a piece of plywood in half at the last retreat. So cool. Hiiii-ya!” – Betsy B.

The Space Between….

The Space Between
It doesn’t seem that long ago, that I graduated from college. My four scholarship-funded years at Colorado State University were transforming and as I packed up to move to California, I felt as if I had arrived. Or so I thought.
I recently returned from the East Coast after moving my youngest child into his freshman dorm. At the same time, my 22-year old daughter graduated and moved back home. She got her dream job along with 10-12 hour work days . Both my kids had arrived. Or so they thought.
It took me many years and chapters in my life, to learn that there is no point in life at which I am Done. Of which I have Arrived. There’s no great accomplishment, that won’t be followed by the next great goal, the next great dream. It’s a flowing cycle of beginning and ending, exploring and discovering. I’ve tried to teach my children what my asana practice has taught me, the time spent moving between the poses is just as important as the time spent in the pose. You should embrace both times: the celebratory days of your accomplishments when you’re at the top of the mountain, the messy, character building days when you want to throw in the towel as well as the space and time in between. Along the way, you get to work, rest and play because you can’t wait until you are Done…..
So, to all of us who are experiencing a transitory time in our lives, remember we get to have both, savor both. Enjoy the ebb and flow of the celebratory times, the messy times and the space in-between.
Namaste~

From Yoga To Harvard

When my children were young, I use to go on and on about the benefits of yoga and how it would help them. Funny thing, whenever I proselytized about yoga they hated it, but when I was being yogic, they loved it. Beyond the physical practice of yoga, I shared the deeper teachings that would help them throughout their life. There’s a very yogic poem by Max Erhmann who studied law and philosophy at Harvard University that encapsulates words to live by during the good times, challenging times and everything in between.  As my son who will be attending Harvard in the Fall of 2015 and my daughter who graduates from UCLA the same year embark on the next chapter of their lives, I hope that practicing yoga off the mat as well as on will serve them on their journey as well as it has served me.

 

Words To Live By

 

From Yoga

From Yoga

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;

To Harvard

To Harvard

for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

 

Impermanence: In loving Remembrance of Buddha & Lily

My beloved big, beautiful Buddha Boy and his lovely, little sister Lily passed away within 10 days of each other just shy of their eighth birthday. Buddha and Lily were special “dogi’s” who raised thousands of dollars for No Kill Animal Shelters. I adopted both of them when they were four months old. I taught them a variety of yoga poses in Sanskrit and put their talent to good use teaching Doga Yoga at a variety of Charity Events.

Buddha passed away from a degenerative disc disease in his spine. When he was diagnosed, the vet gave him three months to live. He lived for another 16 moDoga Yoga Groupnths and I attribute it to his yoga practice, a great holistic team of acupuncturists, chiropractors and a raw food diet. Although his body deteriorated his love and spirit never declined.

Our lovely Lily girl died gently in our arms at home on the couch. Her lung cancer prevented her from eating much yet she detached from the experience of any discomfort in her body and just wanted to stay by my side comforting me.

When we buried Buddha and Lily, My “kids” who are 18 and 21 now, were having a difficult time, so I shared the Buddhist teaching about impermanence.
Don’t cling to things because everything is impermanent. Experience your emotions fully, let the emotions penetrate you – let it penetrate you all the way through you. If you don’t allow yourself to express fully the emotion – let it go all the way through you – then you can never get to the point of becoming detached from it.
You’re too busy being afraid of the emotion coming back. If you experience the pain, grief, love or whatever emotion fully, then you know what it is and can move on from it.
And only then can you say, okay I’ve experienced that emotion, I recognize that emotion, now I need to detach from that emotion.

As a family, we experienced the grief of Buddha and Lily’s passing. We cried and let the emotion penetrate us deeply. From that penetration of the emotion, we begin the practice of detaching from the experience.

“We have to nourish our insight into impermanence every day. If we do, we will live more deeply, suffer less, and enjoy life much more. Living deeply, we will touch the foundation of reality, nirvana, the world of no-birth and no-death. Touching impermanence deeply, we touch the world beyond permanence and impermanence. We touch the ground of being and see that which we have called being and non-bBu & Lil Beach Quoteeing are just notions. Nothing is ever lost. Nothing is ever gained.” [The Heart of the Buddha’s Teaching (Parallax Press 1998), p. 124]
Thich Nhat Hanh

The Power of a Creed!

Just as it’s important to have a vision and mission for your business and life, having one for your family can make a huge impact. I’d like to share two special strategies we use in our family to stay happy and healthy.

Using the KISS (Keep It Simple Stacy) method, the first strategy is our Family Creed (creed is derived from the latin word “credo” which means “I believe”) and the second is a short meditation video.
To write your own Family Creed, begin with the vision or purpose of your family.

The McCarthy Family Vision

The purpose of our family is to love and support each family member in achieving the fulfillment that comes from doing their best to fulfill their life purpose, maintaining high levels of integrity, and working to improve themselves each day.

The McCarthy Family Creed
Today, I give thanks for all that I am and all that I have.
Today, I treat everyone I see with kindness, love and respect.
Today, I do my very best in everything I do.
Today, I do my very best to increase my knowledge, skills, health and attitude.
Today, I create wealth and abundance for myself and all those around me.

Every day as I drove my kids to school, we would recite our creed. It was awkward at first, but it became a habit. My kids are 21 and 18 now and they have recited the creed thousands of times over the years. While I can’t point to any specific miracles that are a result of our creed, I can tell you I have two fantastic kids. Even as teenagers, we enjoy spending time together. They are loving and respectful, they excel in academics and athletics, and they are leaders. Every day we have a choice of where we want to set our intention and our family creed helped nudge the kids in setting the right intention.

Loving Kindness Video

20 Years of Yoga with my daughter Kylie

Mother daughter namaste

 

A Yogi’s Super Rich Path

Russell Simmon’s, Music, Fashion & Film Mogul just released his new book, Super Rich: A Guide to Having it All Below is an excerpt from Yahoo Finance today about how Russell Simmons gained his millions through the inner peace he found after 15 years of yoga and meditation.

Russell Simmons’ Top Principles to Super Richness

#1 Give Your Talents Until They Can’t Live Without It

“Wake up in the morning and find out what you want to give as opposed to what you want to get,” he says. “Through this practice of becoming a good giver you become a good getter.”

Simmons gives examples of many of his former selfless, tireless and upaid interns that went on to greatness, including Sean Combs, Kevin Liles, and Julie Greenwald, recently named COO of Atlantic Records Group.

“Those who focus on being good servants usually attract the most in the end,” he says.

Basically, offer your talents and skills for free and the rewards will find you.

#2 Relentlessly Pursue Your Goals Without Appearing Needy

Simmons’ law of attraction says: “when you chase things, they will always run from you.”

This principle goes hand-in-hand with principle number one by virtue of the more you give, the more good that will just find you.

#3 If You Don’t Love it, Leave it Alone

This is not only the idea that you should do what you love and a wealth of richness will follow, but the idea that you should only do things you are “karmically” comfortable doing.

“People can sell anything,” from bombs to drugs, he says, even though there are very serious ramifications to those actions. “I want to stress that making money just for the sake of getting paid is a pedestrian activity that you can rise above.”

If you don’t love it, don’t do it.

#4 Let Go of the Results

“You really have no control over the results, you have control over the action,” he says. “So make sure you perform your action and your duty well.”

In the accompanying clip, he explains that he has no recollection of his very first paycheck, but says he certainly does remember making his first good record.

“All I could think is ‘when my friends hear this record’ it will make them so happy,” he reminisces. “Do things you love. Do things that you have faith will make other people happy and that will give back what you give them.”

#5 Get Open

“You want to always be open, creative and fluid as possible, and never become rigid, old or tight,” he writes, encouraging readers to let loose and lower your defenses.

The Joy of Giving

Simmons’ list of his successes are deep but the endeavors most important to him may be those that go along with his first principle listed above. The idea of being a “good giver.”

He is known globally for not only his business acumen, but also his commitment to philanthropy. Simmons has devoted an entire division of empire to charity and non-profit work.

A yogis guide to Super Rich